I found the following essay on my Facebook feed from more than six years ago. Enjoy!
Everything we do in life is ultimately for one reason and one reason alone, and that is to be happy.
To do that we focus on making money to pay bills, buy groceries and please our significant others and some of the other people we can’t stand. The problem, for most people, is that it means being unhappy and being miserable in the process. I know this because I have been there.
So in a nutshell it boils down to this: We do things that make us unhappy and miserable because we want to be happy in the end. And since the PROCESS of the search for happiness is bringing us unhappiness, we quit the process. Or we look for another process, or more processes, all of which either maintains or adds more dissatisfaction and misery, and since our goal is to be happy, we get frustrated that all our efforts are not producing the desired result.
So, what if we decide to do the thing that makes us happy instead?
maybe the bills still won’t get paid on time, (or maybe they will)
maybe our significant others won’t like it (or maybe they’ll learn)
maybe the people we don’t care for but pretend to care for won’t like it (so who cares?)
and maybe all of this will bring us discomfort and unhappiness as well (or maybe not)
At least we are doing the things that make us happy, and we ARE happy.
If we are struggling to pay the bills now, and we’ll be struggling to pay the bills then, what’s the difference?
The difference is that we are happy during the PROCESS and isn’t that why we started the process in the first place; to be happy?
So, if the process that you’re currently utilizing is not going to bring you happiness in the end, and if you are looking to start or add another process, why not begin a process with happiness present from the start, rather than looking for it in the end?
Do you agree with the above thoughts? Have you tried that in your life? How did it work?
Share your thoughts in the comments.