I found the following essay on my Facebook feed from more than six years ago. Enjoy!

Everything we do in life is ultimately for one reason and one reason alone, and that is to be happy.

To do that we focus on making money to pay bills, buy groceries and please our significant others and some of the other people we can’t stand. The problem, for most people, is that it means being unhappy and being miserable in the process. I know this because I have been there.

So in a nutshell it boils down to this: We do things that make us unhappy and miserable because we want to be happy in the end. And since the PROCESS of the search for happiness is bringing us unhappiness, we quit the process. Or we look for another process, or more processes, all of which either maintains or adds more dissatisfaction and misery, and since our goal is to be happy, we get frustrated that all our efforts are not producing the desired result.

So, what if we decide to do the thing that makes us happy instead?

maybe the bills still won’t get paid on time, (or maybe they will)
maybe our significant others won’t like it (or maybe they’ll learn)
maybe the people we don’t care for but pretend to care for won’t like it (so who cares?)
and maybe all of this will bring us discomfort and unhappiness as well (or maybe not)

At least we are doing the things that make us happy, and we ARE happy.

If we are struggling to pay the bills now, and we’ll be struggling to pay the bills then, what’s the difference?

The difference is that we are happy during the PROCESS and isn’t that why we started the process in the first place; to be happy?

So, if the process that you’re currently utilizing is not going to bring you happiness in the end, and if you are looking to start or add another process, why not begin a process with happiness present from the start, rather than looking for it in the end?

Do you agree with the above thoughts? Have you tried that in your life? How did it work?

Share your thoughts in the comments.

What Do Elvis, Wayne Dyer, and I Have in Common?

The Apartment Building where I lived in 1977 with Abe
The Apartment Building where I lived in 1977 with Abe

In an earlier post, as I looked back and pondered on my life, I mentioned that I was reading Dr. Wayne Dyer’s autobiography I Can See Clearly Now.

In the book, he mentions an incident when he visited Australia to do a book tour and was being interviewed on the radio when the news broke that Elvis Presley had died. His interview was interrupted as they remembered Elvis and played his music.

It reminded me of my roommate Abe who had given me the news of Elvis’s passing. Later on that night he was murdered at work. I wrote about it in my book Life: It’s A Trip.

Here is the excerpt from the book that relays that incident and how it impacted my life.

Death of Innocence

From 1989 to 1994, I worked as a courier driver in Houston, TX. One day, I think it was in ‘92 or ’93 that I was listening to the radio as I drove around town, when I heard Paul Harvey say something to the effect that Oklahoma had put a convicted murderer to death, fourteen years after being convicted and sentenced to death.

I instinctively knew that it was Abe’s killer. Abe was my roommate during the summer of 1977 when I lived in Oklahoma City. [Read more…]

What does it really mean to be free?

My friend and mentor Terri Belford and I are collaborating to create a program on Freedom Lifestyle. She shared with me her thoughts on what it means to be free. I hope you enjoy them as much as I did.

Take it away, Terri.

Terri Belford

Whenever someone contacts me about helping them turn their interests into income, I ask them why they want to be self-employed. The hands-down, number one reply is “because I want more freedom”.

“What does freedom mean to you?” is the next question because everyone’s definition of freedom is different.

Because Rasheed and I each practice different versions of the mobile lifestyle, you may be reading this thinking, “I don’t want to be a van dweller or suitcase entrepreneur traveling the world with my laptop” but freedom is so much more.

Our views of freedom change as we go through different life stages. [Read more…]

Lucid Dreaming


I was awakened from a dream with a knowing that I am to practise Lucid Dreaming. Or was I?

Dreams, in my opinion, are windows to a different realm. I like dreaming, and I have written about my dreams in my book that is now available on Kindle.

I’ve had lucid dreaming experiences in the past. I know that I have the ability to have lucid dreams if I practice it.

I’m currently reading Dr. Wayne Dyer’s autobiography I Can See Clearly Now. In it he talks about the times in his life when he felt drawn to act in certain ways, even though he didn’t know why.

I feel that lucid dreaming is something my inner self is prompting me to intentionally try [Read more…]

As I Look Back


What we have will always trump what we don’t. The Universe is designed for continuous existence and success. The perceived lack or absence of something is an opportunity and an invitation for us to become creative problem-solvers. That is how evolution works.

My friend Bob Jasper sent me a copy of Dr Wayne Dyer’s autobiography, I Can See Clearly Now. In it Dr. Dyer reflects upon the events of his life and sees clearly how they were all designed to prepare him to live out his purpose in life.

Steve Jobs referred to this phenomenon as looking back and connecting the dots. He said you can’t do that while you are in the midst of it, but as you look back upon your life you can see how everything happens for a reason, and you can only connect the dots looking back, not looking forward.

I recently released my book, Life: It’s A Trip, on Kindle. I have found that the same principle was at work in my life as well, as I look back on the first 60 years of my life. I have often said that every decision that you make in life impacts the whole world because we are all connected. We may not always be able to see how, but it always does.

I will do a book review once I am done reading it.